Relationship Quiz

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Warning Signs

Often, when abuse occurs in a relationship, we think it came from out of nowhere.  However, if we look closer at these relationships, there are usually several warning signs that violence could erupt.

! “He was very possessive of me and my time.  He didn’t want me spending time with my friends.”

! “After he hits me, he brings me nice presents.  I’m always sure that the hitting won’t happen again.  It does.”

! “He told me how to do everything as if I couldn’t do anything right.”

! “I got feeling so nervous around him that I couldn’t enjoy being around him.”

! “I was afraid I wouldn’t do what he wanted me to do and he’d yell at me again.”

! “He says he loves me so much he couldn’t survive without me.  Yet, he was mean to me and my baby.”

! “He keeps checking up on me and asking me if I’m speaking to other guys.  If he sees me speak to one, he gets angry with me.”

! “He makes mean remarks to me in front of my friends.  They tell me to leave him.  I can’t because I’m afraid he’d get angry with me if I do.”

! “He tells me he’ll stop criticizing me when I act right.”

! “He calls me horrible names when he’s angry.  I feel like such a failure, because I can’t make him happy.”

! “He only pushed me around when he is drinking.  I get very upset when he starts to drink because I know what’s going to happen.”

If you are experiencing any of these warning signs, you are in an unhealthy relationship and may be in danger.  Please reach out for help.

Evaluate Your Relationship

Does your boyfriend, girlfriend, or partner:

1. Abuse alcohol and/or drugs?
   Yes | No
    
2. Have a history of problems with the law? Of getting into fights? Of breaking things or destroying property?
   Yes | No
    
3. Abuse family members, pets or children?
   Yes | No
    
4. Nag or threaten you if you do not want to engage in sexual relations?
   Yes | No
    
5. Cheat on you?
   Yes | No
    
6. Take your money or take advantage of you in other ways?
   Yes | No
    
7. Accuse you of flirting, "coming on" or cheating on him/her with others?
   Yes | No
    
8. Refuse to listen to you or show concern and interest in your opinions? Is s/he always right?
   Yes | No
    
9. Frequently put others down, especially others who are important to you? "Check out" or make disgusting comments about others in your presence?
   Yes | No
    
10. Often seem to be angry with someone or something? Does your partner always want you to be with him/her?
    Yes | No
     
11. Experience extreme mood swings?
    Yes | No
     
12. Tell you to shut up or tell you you’re dumb, stupid, fat, ugly, or call you other cruel names?
    Yes | No
     
13. Compare you unfavorably to past partners or other males/females?
    Yes | No
     
14. Ignore you, give you the "silent treatment," hang up on you, or roar away in his/her car?
    Yes | No
     
15. Lie to you?
    Yes | No
     
16. Blame everything wrong on you?
    Yes | No
     
17. Tell you how to dress and act around others?
    Yes | No
     
18. Pressure you to give up relationships with your family and friends?
    Yes | No
     
19. Threaten suicide if you break up?
    Yes | No
     
20. Threaten to kill you if you try to break up?
    Yes | No

If you circled yes to one or more of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship or headed toward one. Please call the Crisis Connection, Inc. 24-hour hotline at 1-800-245-4580 and discuss your relationship with us.

For additional information please see:

• Crisis Connection Statistics
• What's it like to be partnered with an abusive man?
• Tactics used by Abusive Man
• Why Does He Stay and Demand that She Stay?
• Why do some women, who have been abused by their partner, return to these men?
• Choices
• No “BUT” about It
• What Are Your Options?
• Possible Consequences of Choosing to Remain in a Relationship with an Abusive Man
• Making a Difference…One Life at a Time
• Speakers Available