Frequently Asked Questions

• Q. Why do men have to pay for Batterer’s Intervention, but women don’t have to pay for their group?
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• Q. Why doesn’t anyone talk about women who abuse men?
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• Q. Why does the criminal justice system (law enforcement, prosecutor, judge) only listen to one side of the story: her side?
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• Q. I have an anger problem, but you’re telling me that anger has nothing to do with this, how can you say that?
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• Q. What’s the big deal about what I say and even how I say it?
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• Q. How can I be expected to change if she won’t?
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• Q. How can she say I’m not a good Dad when I’ve never hit my kids?
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• Q. Okay, so maybe something did happen, but I had been drinking and she knows how I get, so why am I here?
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• Q. She knows how to push my buttons. I’ve told her and told her to back off, but she pushes until I snap. So I’m arrested? How does that work?
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• Q. She knows I need some space when I get home from work. I’ve worked all day while she sat at home. How can she expect me to baby-sit the kids?
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• Q. Even if some of what you’ve said is true, why bother to take Batterer’s Intervention classes if she’s going to leave me anyway?
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