What Can Men Do To Help Stop Domestic Violence?

Suggestions from the Family Violence Prevention Fund

Men can play a crucial role in helping to stop domestic violence. Men are already an integral part of the community that supports and interacts with families dealing with violence. They are the majority of the judges, police officers, and doctors who work with families in crisis. Some men are the neighbors, friends, and family members who support victims by reaching out and lending a hand.

And yet, it is sometimes hard for men to join in the fight against family violence. They may believe it is a women's issue, and that they are not supposed to get involved. But family violence is everyone's concern, and there are many opportunities for involving men in making communities safer.

Men are critical to violence prevention efforts because men are more likely to listen to other men when it comes to the perpetration of domestic violence, and because fathers have enormous influence over the development of their children.

Here are just a few ways men can make a difference:

• Be role models to other men. Young men are uniquely positioned to reach out to other young men who are violent at home, to let them know, "You need help, and I want to help you. Your behavior is not acceptable."
• Take a vocal stand against domestic violence. Men speaking out can have a powerful effect in helping change social norms that support and perpetuate abuse.
• Reach out to a family where domestic violence is present. Just offering to listen and acknowledging what is going on helps chip away at the walls that surround and isolate families living with abuse.
• Act as a role model to a child who lacks a positive male figure in his life. A male mentor and friend can provide consistent support, and even help the child make a safety plan.
• Take a leadership role in civic organizations, such as sports clubs, churches, and neighborhood associations, and speak out against violence in the home.

For additional information see:

• NCADV Domestic Violence in the Workplace
• A Call to Men

Violence is always a choice.